Handle Your Breakup Like A Grown-Up – 5 Don’ts For You

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They got up and left without a trace. Now what?
Nobody wants a boyfriend or girlfriend to “ghost” them instead of actually explaining their reasons for the breakup, but more and more, it’s becoming part of the dating scene.
And why wouldn’t it?

It’s the perfect easy way (AKA the coward’s way) out. And modern things like internet dating encourages — even rewards — consumers who have a very short span of attention. (There are always plenty more profiles to choose from!) Etiquette, as previous generations knew it, is dead.
So how can you navigate your way through the do’s and don’ts of being ghosted? Don’t worry, this list will break it down for you:
The Don’ts
1. Don’t Rush Back Into The Dating Pool
Your pride’s been hurt. Your self-belief has taken a bit of a beating. You need to rebuild yourself before you take the same risks again. The simple rule that people won’t tell you is this: The more vulnerable you feel, the more likely you are to get hurt. Don’t set yourself up for more of the same.
2. Don’t Make It Personal
It’s easy to tell yourself that if your date/boyfriend/girlfriend suddenly vanished, it’s definitely your fault. Actually, it’s NOT. It says a lot about them — that’s a cowardly and superficial way of resolving a situation.
3. Don’t Try To Get In Touch
Truly, they haven’t fallen off the face of the Internet, lost their memory or been kidnapped. They’ve just decided to go after someone else instead of you. Don’t try to persuade them to come back because it won’t lead anywhere good. This is a relationship that wasn’t right. The less you accept that, the more humiliated and rejected you’ll end up feeling.
4. Don’t Try To Discover Their Reason
Even if they were to give you a reason, they probably wouldn’t tell you the truth. Do you seriously expect someone who has so little regard for your feelings to respect you enough to give you an honest answer? Let it go, and accept that moving on is the right thing to do.
5. Don’t Fantasize About What Could Have Been
Maybe you thought they were Mr./Ms. Right, and you’d have a wonderful happily-ever-after together. They didn’t. Now you know that — if you didn’t already — your imagination has a way of running away with you that only makes things harder. You hardly knew them, and you certainly didn’t know who they truly were (which isn’t half as lovable as you thought).
Make a binding promise to yourself like, In the future, I will get to know someone before I fall in love with them.

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