I can’t kill myself over a man –Stephanie Coker



Stephanie Coker
Background
I am Stephanie Coker. I am an On-Air Personality and I am a full time TV presenter. I work for MTV Base Africa and Ebony Life TV.

I also act as Abigail on Tinsel. My father is from Badagry while my mother is from Abeokuta.
They are in the United Kingdom with my brother. I am just alone in Nigeria.
Growing up

I was born 25 years ago. I grew up in North London. I was five years old when my mother decided to have another child.
I was a little bit spoilt and very hyperactive. I loved dancing but I was also shy. I went to a drama school and won dancing competitions.

Music was a big influence in my life. Drama was also a passion but when it was taking up too much of my time, my parents advised me to drop it and focus on my studies instead.
I studied Mass Communications at Brunel University.Working in Nigeria
I think Nigeria is very fulfilling and that’s why a lot of people are moving back here.
For me, it has always been about the lifestyle.

I feel UK is very strenuous and there is a bit too much order.
You know what is going to happen next. It is not spontaneous, things don’t just happen, you have to plan. Though it is a good way to live, it can be a bit mundane and very boring.
MTV freedom presenter’ competition
It was in the United Kingdom. A skin care range company needed a presenter for a nationwide commercial and I won.

I was on internship in America at the time. My face was all over the UK and it was really good because I got to meet with other MTV presenters and they shared a lot with me.
From there, I continued to work, got a job with a Channel One Sky and we went to different communities to speak to people. We met the less privileged, ethnic minorities, disabled people who lived in communities where they were stereotyped.
Impact of winning

Winning the competition has influenced the way I relate to people. I am very jovial and I like to interact with different types of people.
When I first moved to Nigeria, I was staying in Ebute-metta with my aunt and people wondered why I should come back from UK and stay in such a place.
But it was fun and lively, the people there were real.
Leisure

I love writing and coming up with new ideas.
I am a documentary type of presenter who loves factual television.
I love reading as well because it helps me interpret people and life. I love watching movies.
I am also trying to learn how to cook and I don’t eat out all the time. I can cook egusi and efo riro. Relationship

I love to marry a Nigerian man. I have always dated Nigerian men, even when I was in the UK. Most of my friends are Nigerians, Ghanaians or whites.
Stereotype on Nigerian men That Nigerian men are promiscuous.
It is just the way one deals with that. I am not accepting it and I am not saying one should tolerate it. There are also men in Nigeria who are not promiscuous.

Coping with a cheating partner It just shows the man has no respect for me.
I guess everybody deserves a second chance but they say once bitten, twice shy.
I am not a doormat, so he can’t keep doing it.

Once you get married to that person, there is bound to be a problem.
There are always circumstances and I don’t believe in killing myself over a man.
If you find somebody cheating, it is hard to trust the person again.
Turn off

I don’t like people who try to be what they are not. I don’t know how they keep up because it is very hard to do something that is not natural.
Fashion
I love jewellery but you will not catch me wearing them.
I love to store jewellery but when it is time to wear, I am always finding it difficult. I always lose one earring, so I just gave up on earrings.

I love statement jewellery because they stand out.
Style
My style has evolved over the years. When I was younger, I used to like wearing a lot of things at the same time.
I was always over the top. Now, I think I am calmer. I like bold colours like yellow, green, pink, red and print.
I like to have a say in my style.

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